I’m not against doing for others, whether pets, friends, husbands, kids, life partners, coworkers, the cute old couple that live next door, whomever,  I’m in support of all of that. I just want to remind you about somebody else that needs your attention…YOU!

Here are a few suggestions to get you going on some self-loving:

1. Figure out the things that you like doing. This will require some alone time with your thoughts, and maybe even a little talking to yourself, but… IT’S FINE! I know there’s nothing wrong with you and it can be our little secret. Whenever you and yourself reach a conclusion of the things you enjoy, document it for future references. If you like, you can write them down on your special notepad with your favorite pen. You can type them on your phone or better yet, you can record a video message for yourself on your tablet, whatever works for you. Just get it done!
2. Add one thing to your schedule that you can do for yourself daily. Depending on what it is, first thing in the morning might work or end of the day may work, you decide. Just know if you don’t plan to do it, it may not get done. So treat it like a doctor’s appointment and even set yourself a reminder so you don’t forget to show up for yourself.
3. Relax and be in the moment. When it’s time for your “self-appointment,” let it be just that. Don’t let your mind drift off to other tasks you are yet to tackle or that laundry you left in the dryer. Just relish in the moment and give yourself your undivided attention. Focus on whatever it is that you chose and free yourself to truly enjoy what you are doing.
4. Repeat the next day, and the day after and the day after, until it becomes part of your routine.
5. Slowly incorporate other things on your list. Whether weekly, bi-weekly or monthly, make sure you get to them and form the habit of doing them.